Opportunties For Growth

“Isn’t that interesting?”  One of my mentors often says this phrase when I go to him with a problem.  He always reminds me that if I am triggered by something or someone, there is an opportunity to explore something within me.  I can start peeling back the layers within me to understand, analyze, and change my own reactions and behaviors.   

“Thank you for the opportunity.” I shared a few weeks ago how this has become my husband’s and my new motto for 2020.  It’s easy to thank God for the good times but it’s usually not our instinct to be grateful in the hard times.  I’m not saying we should celebrate when bad things happen, but I have seen how opportunities for growth and healing can be found in even the darkest places.  

This doesn’t mean that every time something bad happens or we are triggered, growth and healing will happen.  It takes a lot of hard work internally to really unpack all of the layers of our emotions.  

Where do you even start when you are feeling triggered and know that the real change needs to happen within yourself?

Humble yourself and ask for help.  As humans, we are so afraid of feeling shame, that we will often bury our feelings so far down in an attempt to hide from it.  Ironically, it is the hiding of those feelings that allows them to eat away at us.  When we bring shame into the light, it loses its power.

When we are triggered and there are feelings to process, we need a safe environment to start unpacking everything, free of judgement and heavy in compassion and love. As you start to unpack your stuff, be sure you have a safe space.  You are worthy of growth and healing.  Do not let people and situations continue to trigger you.  There is healing on the other side of growth. You are loved.  

This post is written in partnership with #HerGrowthCollective, encouraging women to walk the path of self-development together.